This post is more so for my white readers. Black men already understand that just because a kid is technically yours doesn't necessarily mean that you have to interact with it.
Today the New Yorker has a great interview with Peter Lanza, father of Adam Lanza, the kid who shot up Sandy Hook a couple of years ago. What a tragic thing to have happen. I mean, for the father. But also for everyone else obviously.
He was at work when it happened, and because he's white and he's got that $$$ (I remember seeing a picture of the kid's house on the news), he probably works at a place where there's a lot of computers connected to the Internets. Imagine some shit like that popping up on Twitter while you're at work. It's only a matter of time before someone's able to connect the dots. You might have to take off early, if it's the kind of job you can up and leave just because there's an emergency.
Gawker went through and excerpted some of the best parts, for people who literally don't have eight minutes and for people who are left feeling discouraged after trying to read something.
Here's the part when the father should have realized it was only a matter of time before his son shot up a school.
According to the state's attorney's report, when Adam was in fifth grade he said that he "did not think highly of himself and believed that everyone else in the world deserved more than he did." That year, Adam and another boy wrote a story called "The Big Book of Granny," in which an old woman with a gun in her cane kills wantonly. In the third chapter, Granny and her son want to taxidermy a boy for their mantelpiece. In another chapter, a character called Dora the Berserker says, "I like hurting people. . . . Especially children." Adam tried to sell copies of the book at school and got in trouble.
And here's the part where the father realizes that he lucked out (in a sense).
Eventually, Lanza realized Adam would've killed him, too [if he hadn't skipped town when the boy was nine years old]. "With hindsight, I know Adam would have killed me in a heartbeat, if he'd had the chance. I don't question that for a minute. The reason he shot Nancy four times was one for each of us: one for Nancy; one for him; one for Ryan; one for me."
Now, Lanza says, he wishes Adam had never been born.
"That didn't come right away," he told Solomon. "That's not a natural thing, when you're thinking about your kid. But, God, there's no question. There can only be one conclusion, when you finally get there. That's fairly recent, too, but that's totally where I am."